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‘HUSBANDS’ …. PARTNERS OR MASTERS?

What are our roles as wives? What are the roles of our husbands?

Lately the divorce rate in our communities have continued to go higher and  higher, looking around i have seen that the major cause of this is that most women of our generation have lost their sense of belongings, they have forgotten to embrace the uniqueness of being a woman.

Too many feminists and gender equality activists feeding their minds with the wrong things, most women struggle daily with deciphering their roles to their husbands, I have seen this happen over and over again and where does it eventually land? Divorce! In our quests to protect our selves from men we began to seek equality with men, we are taught that husband and wives are equal and partners which is totally wrong, we are taught that a husband and wife should split the bills and financial responsibilities equally between each other which is also wrong, gone where the days our mothers would sit back and run the home all day while our fathers would go out and work to make money and bring home for his wife and kids, gone where the days women were seen and not heard , the good old days when everything and everyone had and knew their roles, those were peaceful days, there where very little or no divorces.

I have listened to women tell me that they share the chores and bills equally with their husbands , that their husbands basically can not do a lot of things without their permission, this is very popular among our ladies of the western culture, one time I had to ask ‘ where do y’all find these men cos I can’t even get mine to text me back instantly hahaha….

 

Argue all you want…

A lot of women may argue this but I think the gender roles our  homes  are getting all mixed up, God never said  wife love your husband  “he said husbands love your wife, wife be submissive to your husband” but these days it seems our wives are doing the loving and our husbands submitting.

Someone I know once told me she shares the house chores with her husband, since they are both working and splitting the bills according to her they also have to split everything too, he can not keep friends that she doesn’t like and accept, and so many other things that I can’t even say here and I am like WOW! , at first I thought this lady must be joking right? But a few minutes later I realized she was actually telling it to me how it was, and imagine when this man happens to find a woman tomorrow who worships him and literally treats him like a king you would wonder why he left her.

Remember 1 Corinthians 11:3 “but I want you to understand that Christ is supreme over every man, the husband is supreme over his wife and God is supreme over Christ”

Meditate on that…. The bible makes emphasis on the word SUPREME’

 

It didn’t say a husband is a partner to his wife , it says a husband is a Lord to his wife, so next time someone tries to teach you that man and woman are equal remember to tell that person what 1 Corinthians 11:3 says

Reject the devil in your home and welcome the Lord, there is only space for what you welcome into your home.

GOD BLESS OUR HOMES.

15 thoughts on “‘HUSBANDS’ …. PARTNERS OR MASTERS?

  1. I wasn’t going to comment but once I saw you were just starting out I thought I should. As a Christian, this whole post is incredibly backwards. I’m getting the impression you either are not married or you’ve been mislead, or I am misunderstanding your article. First off I gather from your article you’re answering the question in your title. “Partner or Master?” And your answer is Master? This is an incredibly damaging and negative title. Especially for abused women. You talk about days gone by, like they are to be the goal of a godly family. Are you aware that in those days men were able to beat their wives? Women weren’t allowed to own property, or vote? I am married, with a loving husband. I’m a stay-at-home homeschooling mom of two. We are partners and we are equal and we are joyful and happy. Consider reading your post to yourself, sharing it with a few other godly women and getting some outside opinions. If you meant exactly what is written, you are obviously free to hold you’re own opinions and maybe you will find other readers who feel the same. For myself, this article alone is enough for me to not come back to your site. I’m not saying this to be mean. On the contrary I’m getting ready to launch my own blog, and if someone read something I write and it comes across as damaging I would want to be told. Good luck with your business.

    1. Hi Grace! thanks for reading and sharing how you feel with me, first i am going to make it clear that i do not support abuse in marriage, men who beat their wives are the worst monsters in existence , i do not know how you feel about it but that is where i stand with marital abuse.
      Secondly i believe in the bible and what it tells me, if you think the term master is damaging then what do you as a christian think about God using the word Supreme? woman was created as a helper to man not as a partner, God never had plans of making a woman, he only decided to make a woman after seeing that man would need a helper and companion, i only made reference to the old days i am not saying women should be treated like that again, i just want women all over the world to understand that man and woman are not equal, you and your husband are not partners, your husband is to love, protect and provide for you not to be your partner, a man actually has greater responsibilities and we women should learn to embrace and enjoy it study your scriptures properly and chose the right.
      God Bless You

      1. Nita said, “God never had plans of making a woman, he only decided to make a woman after seeing that man would need a helper and companion,”

        God is omniscient. According to Rev 1:8 & Rev 22:13, God is Alpha (the beginning) and Omega (the end). Isaiah 46:10 tells us that from the beginning, God DECLARED how things would end, from times long past, God told what was to be, saying “My INTENTIONS will come to pass. I will make things happen as I determine they should.”

        In the beginning (Alpha) God not only knew but DECLARED that man was going to need a CORRESPONDING -EQUAL helper. The creation of woman (as helper) was part of God’s DECLARATION and INTENTION from the very beginning.

        1. I feel like a lot of context in this being totally misunderstood, I am not trying to say man and woman do not have the same value before God, of course they do! Male and female were created perfectly in God’S image but do they have the same roles as husband and wife?? No! I even gave a typical example of what I was trying to explain about the lady I know and how they live in their home she may feel it works for them but as a Christian it is not right! EPHESIANS 5:22 ” WIVES SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBANDS AS TO THE LORD” This is very powerful and every time I read it I realize how wrong most of us are doing it and how much responsibility a husband actually has EPHESIANS 5:25 “HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES JUST AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH AND GAVE HIS LIFE FOR IT” And now thats how your husband should love you.

  2. The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
    The old testament was originally written in Hebrew.
    The Hebrew phrase for “helper suitable” or “help meet” depending on the Bible translation is ezer kenegdo.

    One of the definitions listed for kenegdo (Strong’s 5048 neged):

    I will make him עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֺ a help CORRESPONDING to him i.e. EQUAL and adequate to himself,

    Source: Brown-Driver-Briggs
    http://biblehub.com/hebrew/5048.htm

    Corresponding is defined as
    – to be similar or EQUAL to something
    – to be equivalent or parallel
    Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/correspond

    So yes, according to the original Hebrew language of the Bible, God created Eve to be a helper corresponding (EQUAL) to Adam.

    Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper [C in the sense of a partner or ally; the word does not imply subordinate status; see Ps. 79:9] who ·is right for[is suitable for; CORRESPONDS with] him.” (Gen 2:18 Expanded Bible Translation)
    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis%202:17-19&version=EXB

    The ISV and the NET Bible translations also use the word CORRESPONDING (which means equal) in Gen 2:18.

    In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your EQUAL PARTNER in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered (1 Pe 3:7 NLT).

    Several other translations use the word Equal in 1Pe 3:7: WYC, Voice, TLV, MSG, Phillips.

    Men and women are equal in value, worth and God’s gift of new life. Does that mean that men and women will FUNCTION the exact same way? No! However, that doesn’t negate or void the fact that God created women to be equal to men in value, worth and the gift of new life.

    On Aug 5, 2016 6:33 PM, “Kim M.” wrote:
    The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

    The old testament was originally written in Hebrew.
    The Hebrew phrase for “helper suitable” or “help meet” depending on the Bible translation is ezer kenegdo.

    One of the definitions listed for kenegdo (Strong’s 5048 neged):

    I will make him עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֺ a help CORRESPONDING to him i.e. EQUAL and adequate to himself …

    Source: Brown-Driver-Briggs
    http://biblehub.com/hebrew/5048.htm

    Corresponding is defined as
    – to be similar or EQUAL to something
    – to be equivalent or parallel
    Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/correspond

    So yes, according to the original Hebrew language of the Bible, God created Eve to be a helper corresponding (EQUAL) to Adam.

    Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper [C in the sense of a partner or ally; the word does not imply subordinate status; see Ps. 79:9] who ·is right for[is suitable for; CORRESPONDS with] him.” (Gen 2:18 Expanded Bible Translation)
    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis%202:17-19&version=EXB

    The ISV and the NET Bible translations also use the word CORRESPONDING (which means equal) in Gen 2:18.

    In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your EQUAL PARTNER in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered (1 Pe 3:7 NLT).

    Several other translations use the word Equal in 1Pe 3:7: WYC, Voice, TLV, MSG, Phillips.

    Men and women are equal in value, worth and God’s gift of new life. Does that mean that men and women will FUNCTION the exact same way? No! However, that doesn’t negate or void the fact that God created women to be equal to men in value, worth and the gift of new life.

    1. Hi Kim! You seem to understand my point, the functions of both and how God feels about a man and a woman. I got a lot of calls concerning this post, it has sprung a lot of arguments too

  3. The man in the household answer to God. It’s their God-given role to lead their wives and family. He will be judged based on that role. Women are to ultimately submit to their husbands. That’s in the word. People do not like that word. My husband and I are partners, friends, work-mates, but he is the authority in our house. He always wants my input and asks for it, but we both know it’s ultimately his decision. I married a man who obeys God so I know he always prays before making decisions. I suggest reading the book by Elizabeth George: A Woman After God’s Own Heart. 🙂

  4. Hi Nita,
    I’m glad to see someone noticing the problems associated with blurring (or removing) the lines between the genders. When I first saw the title of your post I was afraid you might try to deny the differences between men and women, and specifically their roles and responsibilities. The egalitarian view (which is the view that says men and women are identical), isn’t just unbiblical, but practically problematic in the marriage relationships. Thanks for supporting a complementarian view!

  5. My husband is my partner and best friend. He is not my master although I do my best to submit to him and allow him to be the leader in our home. Things might have appeared better in the past but sin has always been a problem. I know at least 9 or 10 godly women whose husband’s left them for another woman and they are now divorced. In the past, men would have stayed married while still having affairs with women. There is grace in my Bible that leaves room for me and my precious divorced friends to grow and be accepted in the body of Christ. The strongest marriages I have seen is where the husband cherishes his wife. There are women out there who are hurting and need grace and to be loved on. My passion is to offer grace even in our imperfections.

  6. Nita – these topics are always so hard because so many in society don’t understand that there is a difference between people… and while we all deserve love and respect, how we receive love is different… I have loved Love & Respect as marriage book for years. It’s so good.

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